The Dark Knight

  • In a recent conversation, I promised to post two of my older writing pieces.  This is the first of the two, and still does well to highlight my views, relationship, and aesthetic...

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    The Dark Knight

    No, I’m not talking about Batman.  I am talking about the literary archetype that Batman embodies.  That is to say, a hero, albeit one who acknowledges and embraces his darker qualities, while maintaining a quest for peace and honor.  Those parts of our collective psyche are not mutually exclusive states of being.  Rather, they exist as conceptual extremes in a continuum of experience.  As we grow both in life and in ourselves, part of our journey must be to expand our understanding to recognize the light and the shadow in every action, and every one of us.

     

    As this focus of this article is an exploration of my own personal draw to sexual dominance, I should clarify that by use of the term ‘darkness’ I do not intend to say ‘wrong’.  Instead, my purpose is to draw upon the inspiration of concepts similar to the Chinese Yin and Yang.  I am speaking of forces that are actually complementary (rather than opposing), interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world.  We might just as well be speaking of the Morrigan or Shiva.  Darkness and destruction, paired with consciousness and creation, lead ultimately to transformation, in which the whole is greater than the assembled parts.

     

    I should also address that literary parallel which runs tandem to the concept I am exploring – the anti-hero.  These are central characters of stories, be they in film or literature, who lack the conventional qualities of a hero, such as courage, idealism, or morality.  I am specifically avoiding use of this term, because many anti-heroes embody the very antithesis of that to which I aspire.  (For example: Walt in Breaking Bad…?  Not exactly my role-model.)

     

    No, I don’t idealize the anti-hero.  I’m not Anakin Skywalker, (though it’s possible I share some of his fashion-sense).  This to me is actually a fundamental problem with the Star Wars universe.  The entire concept is based on being either good or evil, with little room for grey areas in-between.  So maybe I’m a little bit of Anakin and a little bit of Luke.  But can I also be Jabba so I get to hold Leia’s chain?

     

    In fiction, our exposure to dominance and submission tends to come in the form of abuse or rape, carried out by loathsome, lecherous characters.  The Star Wars reference above is an excellent example of this.  Of course it’s the giant evil slug that makes the princess his slave.  In a world framed by right and wrong, it’s easy to see which category this fits in to.

     

    And yet, Carrie Fisher’s scant 150 seconds of combined screen time as Slave Leia have spawned an entire subculture of cosplay and fan adoration.  The imagery speaks to a deep part of our primitive sexual psyche, and it is worth exploring, and indeed embracing to form a healthier whole.

     

    It’s not about the props.  Much of the leather subculture that continues to influence BDSM today does not hold much sway for me personally.  So while we do use them, the collars, floggers, ropes, and chains are more about establishing a relationship of power-exchange, and that is where the power lies.  Protocol and punishment can provide a path to clarity, for both parties.  They help to establish the rules that keep what we do apart from non-consensual abuse.

     

    Contrary to what many might assume, I consider my slave and I to be equal partners in love and life.  We balance and complement each other.  It is for this reason that a conscious subversion of this dynamic can be so thrilling.  It balances and even highlights our day to day partnership.  I happen to identify as a dominant.  But perhaps counter-intuitively, I think this balancing act is healthy.  Complementary forces, dependent upon the other for fulfillment.

     

    I recently watched an independent B-movie fantasy flick called The Crown and the Dragon.  In the beginning of the film, the heroine is attacked by one of the villains.  He turns her around, forces her to the ground, lifts her skirt, and grabs her hair.  It is attempted rape carried out, again, by a vile character both in action and appearance.  The man is overweight and bald, with rotting teeth.  The heroine is thankfully saved from this fate by a handsome, dashing knight of a hero.  Of course, Mr. Knight guy would never do anything like that.

     

    Well, I identify with Mr. Knight, and yes, I am turned on by the very thought of grabbing my slave’s hair.  It’s not about abuse rather, it is about trust and care.  What may appear violent is tempered with love.  Indeed, it is one of the infinite ways that we can learn how to love.  It is something that I have discovered relatively recently about myself, and I need to explore how to integrate these parts of myself, and make them work together.  With safe, sane, consensual support, one can be just and loving, and harbor the threat of the whip’s sting at the same time.

4 comments
  • Adira of Alduras
    Adira of Alduras Thank you for posting this. I have to admit, that I don't know the mentioned characters (either because I had not seen the movie at all or because I can't remember the names of the characters), but I can see what you say by your description. I know, I...  more
    December 18, 2017 - 1 likes this
  • Tsiskwa
    Tsiskwa I’m a huge fan of Game of Thrones. However, no one who is truly familiar with the books should have recommended it as being even remotely Gorean. Author George RR Martin’s themes are not friendly to slavery, as slavery is outlawed in Westeros, which...  more
    December 18, 2017 - 2 like this
  • Adira of Alduras
    Adira of Alduras Yes, Master, I can see, that it is interesting from another point of view. Thank you for giving a little impression of the series.
    December 18, 2017
  • Milea of  Murmur
    Milea of Murmur Thank you Master for sharing this writing. I like reading it, like your point of view.
    December 23, 2017 - 1 likes this